Is Barbie to blame?

There is so much out there about how we come to understand and achieve our own self-worth as women and girls. There is a bewildering amount of information about what makes us tick and to try and figure out why we do what we do and for whom.
I thought these three articles were very interesting. They make completely different points, but it all seems to boil down to the same thought. Should the media, society, friends or other people tell us who we are and if we are important? Who are we trying to please and why? I think these are very good thought questions for consideration.
Here are the articles:
~Barbies gone wild here Cinderella Ate my Daughter - Peggy Orenstein's new book on girl culture
~Miss Representation - Jennifer Siebel Newsom's documentary at the Sundance Film Festival. She contends that in our culture a woman's value stems from her looks and her sexuality. She hopes to educate and eventually change the powerful media message and cultural norms regarding a person's worth.
~He Loves Us and We Love Him: You've Memorized it, Now Live it - book by Laurel Christensen

The book emphasizes that no matter what our age (or even gender), as followers of Christ, the values of faith, divine nature, individual worth, knowledge, choice and accountability, good works, integrity, and virtue are still integral to our lives.

"I have a theory that we're all kind of that 13-year-old girl inside, whether we're women in our 30s, 40s or 50s, still wanting to know if our lives have purpose, if Heavenly Father hears our prayers," Christensen said. "These are universal themes. ... Truth is truth. The message is just as appropriate."

What messages are we sending our little girls? More than ever, they are bombarded daily with images and messages of how they should look and what they should achieve or not achieve. How can we help them make sense of it all? How can we help instill in them a sense of self-worth and confidence? They will make decisions in the future based largely on how much they think they are worth. How can we help them have a healthy sense of who they are and decide early on who they want to please?