I love Mothers' Day! I love thinking about my own mother and the wonderful job she and dad did raising me and six siblings. I love thinking of my grandmothers and remembering the special things they did for us their grandchildren. I love remembering what is was like to be a mother of young children and of teenagers. I love watching our 3 daughters with their young children. I appreciate my mother-in-law because she raised my husband do be the good man that he is. I love to watch my sisters as mothers and grandmothers and learn from their examples. I really do marvel at the institution of mothering and applaud all the good that mothers do in the world. Sure, there are less than perfect mothers who do less than perfect things, but that is not my focus today. I want to celebrate and remember THE GOOD that the mothers do who have influenced my life.
Here are a few things I remember:
Grandma Fuhriman - she was a small woman who was strong in many ways, she always colored her hair, she always looked nice and wore jewelery and dressed up when she went out, she was a wonderful cook and make candy, cookies, pies and cake, she bought me Paint My Number when I would visit her in the summer and give me money to go to the store, she took me to the Capitol Theater to the move with lunch at the Bluebird, she gave us lovely Christmas presents and had an extended family Christmas party most years, she worked hard on the dry farm every summer cooking for the family and hired men, she wanted all her grandchildren to get along and have fun together, she served at the Logan temple for many years, she made me a beautiful satin hand-stitched quilt, she knew how to tat, she was widowed at a young age and made the best of her circumstances, she loved her children and grandchildren and we all knew it.
Grandma Mayme - she was a tall woman who worked hard her whole life, it was easy to talk to her and she was always ready with a hug and encouraging words, she was a wonderful cook who make amazing desserts, salads and main dishes from scratch, she taught me how to play Rook and Parcheesi, I loved to sleep over at her house because the sheets always smelled so fresh and the covers weighed a ton in the basement bedroom, she often used an outhouse and was very frugal but very generous, she had a garden and bottled fruit by the ton, she was a postmaster and it was fun to visit her in the one-room post office with a pot belly stove as the heat source, it was always wonderful to visit her and gather around her kitchen table for a meal, she knew how to crochet and she made 100s of crochet items, she made me a purple and white floral quilt, she loved her family and worked endlessly to take care of their needs, she taught through her example how to be strong and do hard things.
Grandma Mary - she learned how to work hard as a young girl and she has worked hard her whole life, she is a caregiver and loves taking care of people, she has served others in the church and community and has worked to lift the burden of those in need, she has experienced great joy and happiness and she has known her share of heartbreak and trial - yet she perseveres through it all, she is joyful and fun to be around, she loves to get out and go and see and experience new things, she is easy to be with and it is always good to talk to her, she is wise and knows what to do, she gives good advice, she gives people the benefit of the doubt, I love that she got to spend last week with us so that her grandchildren and great-grandchildren could get to know her better, she loves her children and their families and her grandchildren and great-grandchildren, she is a strong link in the generational chain and I'm so proud of her and so happy to call her mother.
All these women have excelled at mothering. All these women are women of faith and courage. All these women taught us how to live life well and how to be strong, compassionate, kind, and loving and I'm so grateful for their wonderful examples.