Husbands

I know it is Halloween (not Father's day) but I've had this topic on my mind lately.  Husbands...sometimes they get the short end of the stick by their wives.  I know I've been guilty of this myself.  Now that our kids are grown and out of the house, I've grown to love and appreciate my husband more than ever.  For years and years when we were busy raising our children, our relationship got pushed down on the priority scale sometimes...OK... oftentimes.  My main focus was often on the children because their needs superseded everything else.  Add work, church service, community service, home maintenance and such and the left-over time for just the two of us was sometimes very slim pickings.

My sweet husband who brought me flowers yesterday.

My advise to young couples would be to try very hard to keep your relationship at the top of the priority scale. Get a babysitter more often than you do and get away.  Have a date night and stick to it every week.  It is well worth the price and the benefits will be immediate and long lasting.  Watering the plant of marital happiness will bear fruit for years to come.  After all, one day you will find that the children are gone and the two of you will be left in the home to make your own way again.  There is nothing better than finding that you still like each other, that you can laugh and enjoy one another and that your relationship is the one that will endure through all time (and eternity if you have LDS beliefs.)
This article was in the newspaper a few days ago.  I thought it contained excellent advice. 


Here are 10 compliments that your husband needs to hear:

1. I'm so glad I married you. Men need to feel secure in marriage, and the fastest way to let your man know he's still the one is to tell him outright. This is a great compliment because it can come completely out of the blue, without him having to do anything to earn it. Spontaneous compliments feel genuine and sincere.
2. I love how you provide for our family. Men hold themselves to a high standard when it comes to providing, and they need you to acknowledge their efforts. Let your husband know that he doesn't have to make millions to still make you happy.
3. I'm so proud of you. You'll get far in marriage being your husband's greatest cheerleader. In a world that continuously knocks him down, be the one to always lift him up.
4. You're such a great daddy. If you have kids, praise your husband for his involvement with the family. Modern society often tells dads that they come second to mom, so let him know he's a valuable asset to your family.
5. You're so attractive and handsome
   . Your husband needs to know you love the way he looks, even after a few years and a few extra pounds. Many men send and receive love through touch and physical intimacy, so complimenting his body is one of the fastest ways to show him love in a way he understands.
6. Thanks for fixing the broken dryer. Whenever your husband plays Mr.Fix-It around the house, compliment his efforts. He needs to feel capable, especially when he's taking care of you.
7. Thanks for the help around the house. Helping out can be a little scary for the man of the house. Chances are that you have your own way of doing things, and he may be afraid of messing up your system. Thank him sincerely when he helps out, regardless of whether he folds the sheets the "right" way.
8. You can always make me laugh. Let your man know that he lightens up your day and brings positive energy into your household. Even if your husband isn't the ha-ha funny type, you can still compliment his stellar smile.
9. You're so strong. The next time your husband lifts a heavy load of laundry, bat your eyelashes a little and compliment his Superman-like strength, even if you could have done the task yourself. Husbands need to know they're good for something, and they certainly need to know they're good for you.
10. I love spending time with you. We all get caught up in the business of everyday life, so let your spouse know that you still love to simply hangout with him. After all, you'll be his best friend and constant companion forever.